The Elusive G-Spot:  It’s Real and It’s Fabulous–and in Fact a Zone

“ One- two- 1-2-3, 3-5 4….” Many of us from the Friends generation remember the episode when Monica Geller was trying to teach Chandler Bing about the erotogenic zones of women in pleasuring his new girlfriend. From pop culture to hard-core scientific research dating back to 1672 when Dutch gynecologist Ranier de Graaf discussed the […]


It’s Sexual Health Awareness Month and I need to get a few tidbits out to my patients and viewers to raise awareness of some of the most common issues of female sexual dysfunction people with vaginas face!!!! LET’S TALK ABOUT GETTING OUR GROOVE BACK (SORRY, I AM PROBABLY DATING MYSELF WITH THIS REFERENCE). The most […]

Hymen and Virginity Testing: Is this the Membrane of Honor?

EID Mubarak! Let’s talk about the hymen and virginity testing: IS this the membrane of honor? Eid Mubarak to all my friends, families, and followers who may be celebrating the end of the holy month of Ramadan. I have been a little MIA during this month so that I can spend more time with my […]

Gynogirl Reacts To Vagisil ® Controversy: Vaginal Health And Menstrual Shaming

Gynogirl Reacts To Vagisil ® Controversy: Vaginal Health And Menstrual Shaming Recently, Vagisil unleashed a new product into the market of feminine hygiene–and I am not speaking of sanitary pads, tampons or cups. The new OMV ® line targets teenage girls with their wipes, wash and serum products. The feminine hygiene industry is a multi-billion […]

Menopause Symptoms And Depression Awareness

Today I want to discuss an important topic that many of my patients face or will inevitably face in their lifetime- Menopause.
When I used to think about menopause, I thought about old age, sagging skin, dryness, and generally emotional time for women. I was always scared. Images of the GoldenGirls is what I remember when I was growing up. Blanche Devaroe living her best life after 50 would sometimes reassure me that everything will be okay! Even today, we have women like Jennifer Lopez and other beautiful, brilliant and talented women over the age of 50 who are doing and looking their best ever.
So, what’s my point? AGE is just a number and we should all try to embrace it.
My goal for myself and my patients while navigating this process is keeping ourselves in good physical and mental health. This Is essential, because by the year 2025 it is predicted that 1.1 billion woman worldwide will be postmenopausal. This means we need to learn how to embrace and navigate this inevitable life event.
Now that I’m closer to menopause than menarche and 1/3 of my patients are in the same boat, it’s time to de-stigmatize menopause.

It all boils down to hormones, remember those? Well let’s remember females are all born with all the eggs they will ever have by 20 weeks in utero. These eggs produce hormones that are not only important for reproductive and sexual health, but as you will learn, it helps the entire body in multiple ways.
Natura menopause encompasses a natural decline in reproductive hormones (progesterone, estrogen, and testosterone). On average this happens around age 51. As menopause occurs, a woman’s ovaries begin to run out of eggs, her periods stop, and eventually her whole reproductive system shuts down!

Sometimes it’s just an end to the period and not much else. Other women might experience more noticeable changes: Skin, hair, teeth, bones, eyes, cognition, depression, sleep disturbance, weight gain, to name a few are all very prominent but let’s talk about the most bothersome symptoms I see when women come into my office and what we can do about it.
Some women experience hot flashes or night sweats known as vasomotor. Up to 75% of women experience this and it can be truly

bothersome. Obviously, reproductive cycles will halt and while irregular bleeding is common, it’s not normal after menopause. Postmenopausal bleeding should always be checked out.
Another big problem I see in the office is the constellation of sex called GSM. Vaginal itching, vaginal burning, vaginal discharge, postcoital bleeding, pain with sex. Urinary issues including urgency, frequency and frequent UTIs are also common. This used to be called vaginal atrophy.
Do you understand why we changed the name? The same reason it’s called Erectile Dysfunction and not impotence! Lack of estrogen leads to all this and more. Also, when the androgens decrease the vulva can change shape as well.
Note: Keep an eye out for my upcoming blog on an in-depth review of GSM in and of itself.
So, as you can see there’s a lot of systemic things that can happen to woman during menopause which we need to be aware of. The key is finding the right help when you need it.

This is such an important topic. One of my mentors in women’s sexual health and menopause, Dr. James Simon (we call him the menopause whisperer) gives some amazing talks about this topic. One of my favorite things he says about it, is that avoiding or not using HRT is like a zombie habit. It should have been killed by evidence but refuses to die! With real zombies, you have to shoot them in the head, and so our best chance at this is to be cerebral about this and talk about the evidence.
Dr. James Simon has all given the talk, “How the US Government and The Media Conspired to Convince Women That Menopausal Hormone Therapy Was Dangerous.” It was awesome and I am going to use some of his tidbits as you read further.
Back in the day, almost all women would be placed on hormone replacement therapy in the form of estrogen and progesterone when menopause hit.
Then, about 20 years ago a women’s health initiative came out that led to a lot of fear around hormone replacement therapy. The fear was a result of an analysis of results that demonstrated that there was an increased risk in breast cancer with women going through hormone replacement therapy.
A lot of buzz and marketing was put behind this theory and it led to a lot of doctors and providers to stop prescribing hormone replacement therapy due to the fear of increased risk of breast cancer.
Note: Cardiovascular disease is the number one killer of women. Breast cancer is a 12% risk for most woman, in a lifetime.
What eventually was found out through new testing and data was that this original analysis was wrong. There isn’t actually an increased risk in breast cancer above what your baseline would be. Unfortunately, there is still a lot of misinformation going around about this today.
Hormone replacement therapy is important and the best treatment for women with hot flashes and can potentially help decrease the risk of heart disease and stroke, decrease the risk of cognitive disorders, mood disorders and more. Some women even live longer lives as a result of hormone replacement therapy.
While I’m not advocating that every woman should go on hormone replacement theory, it really is a discussion you should be having between yourself and your doctor, based on your medical and family history.

Blue Balls, Blue Vulva–is This A Thing? Gynogirl Answers.

Blue Balls, Blue Vulva–is This A Thing? Gynogirl Answers. So, I guess recently there was a TikTok video that went viral about blue balls. I am not on TikTok as it would serve as an embarrassment to my kids (apparently) and would probably lead to marital problems, because it is such a great time-suck but..I […]

Genitourinary Syndrome Of Menopause And Effective Treatments

Genitourinary Syndrome Of Menopause And Effective Treatments Vaginal atrophy- in the best sense the word “atrophy” means to waste away. in our worst connotation it means to shrivel, deteriorate or become a vestigial during evolution. dear lord, is this what we want to think of the vagina for almost half the women in menopause?Certainly not, […]